why does everyone look so surprised when i say the reason for cutting my hair short is the hot weather, what were u expecting “i need to take my father’s place in war and the chinese army won’t accept women” ???
If the child you are responsible for has health problems, behavioral problems, allergies, if they are neuroatypical, if there are certain things that they can’t stand for any reason…
TELL YOUR CHILDCARE PROVIDERS.
FUCKING TELL THEM.
And not in a vague way. In a way that will actually help us to, I don’t know, NOT FUCK WITH YOUR CHILD.
Because child care providers don’t like to fuck with children. We want them to be happy, safe, and healthy.
As an example: I’ve had two students who were epileptic. One I knew about from day one, and the parents say down with all of her teachers and gave us a general first aid debriefing and what to do/who to call if a seizure occurred, a description of her aura (the sensations she’d get before a seizure) and what generally triggered it, and the assurance that if they suspected from her behavior that she was going to have one that day, she’d be kept home for her safety.
The other kid I had no idea was epileptic until months after he first started attending class (he had been diagnosed years ago, it turned out). The parents said nothing about any possible triggers or signs of an oncoming seizure, but assured us that he didn’t have to do homework because of it (his parents backed him up on this). At 6th grade he was functionally illiterate, and we knew NOTHING about it ahead of time.
I’ve got a student with Down’s syndrome who is perfectly adjusted in my class because his parents were right on top of communication from before day 1 and I already knew what his boundaries and needs were. I’ve also lost neuroatypical students because their first day sucked, because I had no idea what accommodations they needed until well into the lesson and certain textures or materials freaked them out.
I’ve had a parent give me a vital lesson on epipen use (with an orange she provided) because her daughter was allergic to peanuts and she was aware that we can’t control everything that comes into the classroom (you can tell parents not to pack PB&J sandwiches, but it doesn’t mean they’ll listen…). I’ve also had far too many casual mentions of deadly allergies from kids, then later verified them with unhelpful parents. (“So, uh, is your son allergic to cashews? He mentioned something about it…” “Oh, yeah. He’s really sensitive to them. He was in the hospital last month because of it.” “So… uh… that’s not in our info on him… what should we do on the off chance he’s exposed?” “Uh… call us, I guess. Maybe give him Benadryl?”
“Depression is stupid and not a thing that makes me a better writer. One time I went a whole year without writing and I stayed in bed and drank. Fuck your Bukowskisms. I want sunlight and love and running down some street I’ve never been on where it’s warm and cool at the same time and I’m smiling. I want nothing to ever be bad again- and I don’t mean that I want a life free of conflict, I mean that I want a life free of meaningless conflict. Not being able to will oneself to take a shower or leave the house is meaningless. There is nothing to be gained, no lesson to be learned from that kind of life. My heart is stale, my prose is stale. Give me fire if you want to hurt me. Give me something I can taste. There’s nothing romantic or mysterious about where I am. There’s nothing here worth holding onto.”—By Joshua Espinoza (via thymoss)
i’ve been thinking about all those posts about “we need female heroes who do girly things”/”why is the female hero always such a tomboy” and then the response posts that are like “uhhh actually we don’t really have any really masculine female heroes either” so i was trying to figure it out—what do we have, exactly?
and really what we get is women who eschew “girly” things while still managing to look like society’s ideal woman. they would never touch eyeliner (they’re too busy with Important Things), but their eyeliner is immaculate. they have a huge, varied wardrobe, but wouldn’t be caught dead actually shopping for clothes. and it reminds me of the expectation that women must be effortlessly beautiful. don’t wear makeup or you’ll seem self-absorbed—but god forbid you look like you’re not wearing makeup. it’s interesting to me, that the impossibilities imposed on female characters are the same ones imposed on real women.
if you ever doubt that this site is full of idiotic crying babies, just know that i’ve been running a parody account under dashconstaff and every time people message me whining and thinking i’m the actual staff i tell them to take it up with our legal page and then link to a charity and people are still reblogging stuff and whining
Lol I reblogged this the other day but wanted to put it up again because really, just look at the tiny Fili’s face, *giggles* he’s so cute and evil looking, with his wicked grin *squishes adorable evil baby Fili*
I agree that cropping/docking shouldn't be done but I have a harder time with declawing. Perhaps I just need to study up on training cats but I like the idea of cats not destroying my furniture or body. I guess that makes me a horrible person?
No, what makes you quastionable is the attitude you have coming into it.
when you see posts like mine youd on’t react with ‘wow, there might be a reason this person finds this practice awful, as they are reasonable with this other inhumane practice. I should ask why/google why for myself and make sure I am not harming an animal. Maybe I will learn something.’
Instead you get the defensive ‘well I must be a horrible person for not wantng to be scratched wow.’ attitude that is not condusive to any kind of logic or learning.
but yes, you should look up training tactics. I have four cats, two of which were ferals for most of their lives. I also have a lot of things that I would prefer not be scratched, as well as an other reasonable person not wanting to be harmed.
Not once do my cats scratch me/my things. Why? Well, it’s a few fold. I provide ample scratching posts for them to have access to, and i redirected them to said scratching posts whenever they tried to claw the couch. I also take the time to trim their nails, which is not a hard process. I don’t consider that very hard and I did not even have to research to achieve that knowledge. I just did it.
Declawing is abhorrent because,w ell, even the name is deceptive. 'Declawing' brings to mind a simple procedure where you remove JUST the claws. but that isn’t it.
Declawing is actually going in and having the first bone joint of each of their toes removed. It has a recovery time, and cats suffer from chronic problems afterwards. I mean you are removing an entire bone. Imagine losing the last joints in all of your fingers.
So in peopels desperation to have an easy cat they are harming the animal to make things easier on them.
If you can’t put the time and energy nto training your cat, and would rather mutilate it, don’t get one in the first place. (or perhaps adopt one that is already declawed. But prepare for the behavior problems you so want to avoid, as well as the health issues such as arthritis.)